Babies, birth, parenting

Birth, babies, and parenting; these experiences can be full of joy and also full of struggle (I know I have struggled). Join me for an honest portrayal of pregnancy and birth, postpartum, and parenting babies mixed with humor, reality, tips and tricks. The content is a mix of my own personal journey from new mother to the mother I am today. I also won’t shy away from sharing plenty of my professional tips and tricks that I have gained over the years through my work as both a postpartum doula as well as a perinatal therapist.

Additionally, birth trauma will be a large focus. As well as planning for postpartum, and I don’t mean depression. You will learn that your path as a parent is unique and you are uniquely qualified to be the parent to your children. No one answer is perfect and even though parenting is natural that doesn’t mean it is easy. As always, grief is part of the process and is always a part of any parenting journey. There are plenty of blogs out there for you to choose from. Choose mine if you want the raw honesty that comes from leaning into this parenting ride. There may be profanity at times and very rarely a picture of my children.

Don’t be afraid to speak your truth. We need to do this more. Well this is my truth. Take it or leave it. Share your opinions and your own stories. I love hearing from new and growing families.

Surviving your baby’s birthday (part 2)

Your baby’s birthday: harder than you expected Being forced to celebrate the anniversary of a horror in your life is so complex. You are raw and emotional but expected to hold your head up and put on a smile. You wonder how you are supposed to survive your baby’s birthday. Well-meaning but uninformed family members might even ask you to tell the story of how the baby was born. The season is the same. The activities of your life are similar. So many reminders. You look at the clock and remember, “this is when they broke my water”. Or “this …

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Surviving your baby’s birthday (part 1)

Surviving your baby’s birthday As you approach the anniversary of the birth of your child, you may have mixed feelings. You wonder how you will survive your own baby’s birthday. Some people describe their experience of childbirth as feeling like everyone failed to rescue them. I can’t tell you how you will feel. But I can tell you how I felt and later what helped me. Below is my experience. Yours is still unfolding. Birthaversary (also known as my baby’s birthday) No one acknowledged what happened. Everyone just thinks it is okay and we are celebrating. Everyone wants to make …

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C-section healing surprises

C-section Awareness Month April is the month designated to everything cesarean (c-section). Imagery and healing tips and kumbaya for all c-section warriors floods social media. As a c-section warrior myself, I am glad that so much attention is given to this very important method of birth. I hope it provides some measure of comfort and education to all other c-section warriors. Recovering from my c-section, I felt so disconnected to my body. It was one of the most distressing and unexpected parts. C-section recovery: full of surprises I didn’t read much or learn much about c-sections during my first pregnancy. …

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Parenting changes everything, including you

Parenting and the illusion of control There is an illusion that exists in life. A good example is driving on icy or snowy roads. You assume that you’re in control of the vehicle, but the reality is, you have far less control over the vehicle than you think. Truthfully, the only way to stay safe in these weather conditions is to not drive. For most people, when they become parents is the first time they’ve had to face this illusion. Who else realized they had anxiety when they became pregnant or had a baby? 🙋‍♀️ Up until the big parenting …

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Baby sleep 4 tips and tricks: baby edition

Baby sleep: carriers Baby sleep challenge: they sleep great in our arms but our arms get tired. Solution: Find a baby carrier that is comfortable and use it for daytime naps. This is key. And can make a world of difference. This is especially helpful with short nappers and sensitive sleepers. You aren’t going to wear your baby constantly and sometimes you’ll have them nap on you when you are relaxed and not up and about and therefore you will just hold them. But for babies that are hard to soothe or easily startled or super 4th trimester babes: baby …

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