Becky Baruth

Surviving your baby’s birthday (part 2)

Your baby’s birthday: harder than you expected Being forced to celebrate the anniversary of a horror in your life is so complex. You are raw and emotional but expected to hold your head up and put on a smile. You wonder how you are supposed to survive your baby’s birthday. Well-meaning but uninformed family members might even ask you to tell the story of how the baby was born. The season is the same. The activities of your life are similar. So many reminders. You look at the clock and remember, “this is when they broke my water”. Or “this …

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Surviving your baby’s birthday (part 1)

Surviving your baby’s birthday As you approach the anniversary of the birth of your child, you may have mixed feelings. You wonder how you will survive your own baby’s birthday. Some people describe their experience of childbirth as feeling like everyone failed to rescue them. I can’t tell you how you will feel. But I can tell you how I felt and later what helped me. Below is my experience. Yours is still unfolding. Birthaversary (also known as my baby’s birthday) No one acknowledged what happened. Everyone just thinks it is okay and we are celebrating. Everyone wants to make …

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Therapy Worries: How long do I have to go?

Therapy worries: How long do I have to go? I can’t tell you how many times I am asked this question. From friends, family, and clients. This concern comes up early on whenever someone learns what I do for my job. People desperately want to know the timetable. I have worried about it for myself when beginning working with a therapist. I think to myself, is this really worth it? What if I don’t get anything out of it? How long? As long as it takes You will only keep going to see your therapist as long as it is …

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C-section healing surprises

C-section Awareness Month April is the month designated to everything cesarean (c-section). Imagery and healing tips and kumbaya for all c-section warriors floods social media. As a c-section warrior myself, I am glad that so much attention is given to this very important method of birth. I hope it provides some measure of comfort and education to all other c-section warriors. Recovering from my c-section, I felt so disconnected to my body. It was one of the most distressing and unexpected parts. C-section recovery: full of surprises I didn’t read much or learn much about c-sections during my first pregnancy. …

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Insurance for therapy: why it might not be helpful

That’s what insurance is for, right? You are at a place in your life where seeking help is possible. Your next step is finding a therapist. So you start with the network of providers for your insurance. Surely, you will be using your insurance to pay for therapy, right? Financial concerns are a legitimate reason to want to find a provider that takes your insurance. But is insurance the best and only way to pay for therapy? Read on for some things to consider. Reasons NOT to use insurance Privacy and confidentiality Your therapist must provide certain pieces of information …

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