Your baby's birthday: harder than you expected Being forced to celebrate the anniversary of a horror in your life is so complex. You are raw and emotional but expected to hold your head up and put on a smile. You wonder how you are supposed to survive your baby's birthday....

Surviving your baby’s birthday As you approach the anniversary of the birth of your child, you may have mixed feelings. You wonder how you will survive your own baby's birthday. Some people describe their experience of childbirth as feeling like everyone failed to rescue them. I can't tell you how...

Therapy worries: How long do I have to go? I can't tell you how many times I am asked this question. From friends, family, and clients. This concern comes up early on whenever someone learns what I do for my job. People desperately want to know the timetable. I have...

C-section Awareness Month April is the month designated to everything cesarean (c-section). Imagery and healing tips and kumbaya for all c-section warriors floods social media. As a c-section warrior myself, I am glad that so much attention is given to this very important method of birth. I hope it provides...

That's what insurance is for, right? You are at a place in your life where seeking help is possible. Your next step is finding a therapist. So you start with the network of providers for your insurance. Surely, you will be using your insurance to pay for therapy, right? Financial...

Parenting and the illusion of control There is an illusion that exists in life. A good example is driving on icy or snowy roads. You assume that you're in control of the vehicle, but the reality is, you have far less control over the vehicle than you think. Truthfully, the...

Learning about Nicey A couple of years ago I took an advanced training in postpartum care traditions with Julia Jones (Newborn Mothers) . I learned many things in that advanced course that impacts my work with new families in a positive way (click to see postpartum packages). But a certain...

Baby sleep: carriers Baby sleep challenge: they sleep great in our arms but our arms get tired. Solution: Find a baby carrier that is comfortable and use it for daytime naps. This is key. And can make a world of difference. This is especially helpful with short nappers and sensitive...

Insomnia gets the best of us Insomnia happens to the best of us. The world is crazy right now. Anxieties are high. It can make sleep nearly impossible. I have had insomnia off and on since I became a mother. It was one of the most radical changes I noticed....

Mom guilt happens If you're here for all the tips for how to ditch your mom guilt, you're going to be disappointed. I am going to be singing the praises of it here. Try this if you want to read about ditching the guilt. The biggest challenge I am going...

Baby sleep: every parent's challenge Maybe you're an exhausted new parent and feeling overwhelmed. Maybe you're an expectant parent and this is your #1 concern. Read on for some baby sleep tips you could put into action right now. Sleep deprivation goes hand in hand with having a new baby...

A first time mom's experience A mother recently described to me the epitome of new baby stress.  She described to me trying to breastfeed her newborn in the hospital. The experience made her feel awful. A pattern emerged: the baby would cry, and then suddenly she’d have so many people...

New baby stress: do experts really help? New baby stress is real and experts are available, but will it help? Are you wondering what your baby is trying to tell you? Do you find yourself feeling desperate for answers while the baby cries? How often do you find yourself asking...

The birth of a mother I was a classic first time mother giving birth. Namely, I was worried about giving birth and making no plans to prepare for postpartum. We took the hospital-based birth class. In which, I learned that I needed IV fluids before I could get an epidural...

My VBAC story ***Warning: successful VBAC story of the healthy and safe delivery of my baby girl. However, I did experience a negative complication. My pregnancy was wonderful. I was healthy and active. I had no complications or discomfort except for first trimester nausea.  My labor began spontaneously at 11...

Anyone that has been paying any attention to the news lately can’t miss the scary fact that new mothers in our country are dying in the first year of motherhood at an alarming rate.  What is happening? This is a question that has been on the minds of lawmakers, medical...

You won't see pics of my kids here Why do I primarily use stock photos? Essentially, it is rooted in my desire for privacy. But there is more to it. I also don't post a lot of photos of my client's babies or siblings. I will only post stock photos...

Hi there! Welcome to my blog. Omaha Doula and Therapist Becky is my google name. I don't really know what I am doing but I am here anyway. Who am I? First and foremost, I am a care taker. This has taken MANY different forms over the years (and there...