Month: May 2021

Your baby’s birthday: harder than you expected Being forced to celebrate the anniversary of a horror in your life is so complex. You are raw and emotional but expected to hold your head up and put on a smile. You wonder how you are supposed to survive your baby’s birthday. Well-meaning but uninformed family members might even ask you to tell the story of how the baby was born. The season is the same. The activities of your life are similar. So many reminders. You look at the clock and remember, “this is when they broke my water”. Or “this …

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Surviving your baby’s birthday As you approach the anniversary of the birth of your child, you may have mixed feelings. You wonder how you will survive your own baby’s birthday. Some people describe their experience of childbirth as feeling like everyone failed to rescue them. I can’t tell you how you will feel. But I can tell you how I felt and later what helped me. Below is my experience. Yours is still unfolding. Birthaversary (also known as my baby’s birthday) No one acknowledged what happened. Everyone just thinks it is okay and we are celebrating. Everyone wants to make …

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